One of my earliest memories as a child is being in a sweet shop waiting to pay, and seeing the man before me pull out several pound coins to pay for his selection of chocolate.
Only having a small amount of pocket money myself, I stood there in amazement at how much he was able to buy with all of those gold coins.
It was like my own little Charlie and the Chocolate Factory moment.
I couldn't wait to grow up and have lots of money like this man, so that I too could buy myself as much chocolate as I wanted.
I'd be really happy then.
What actually happened though, is that although I grew up and my pocket contained these same gold coins I'd once dreamed about, my focus was now on other things. I would be happy when...
We can innocently spend most of our lives living by this 'I'll be happy when...' type thinking.
We believe that something outside of us needs to happen in order for us to be happy and feel like we've made it in life.
And when the things on our list don't happen, or don't unfold as we wanted them to, we can easily start to think and believe that we've failed in life and in our mission to be happy. Instead of feeling happy, we end up feeling lost.
However we're only ever lost in an illusion.
And it's one that we've made up entirely ourselves. And because we've made it up ourselves, it's super easy to let go of it and experience real, lasting happiness that doesn't require anything outside of us to happen, in order to show up in our lives.
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You'll discover how to see through this illusion in all areas of your life so that you can start to live life from your highest self (which coincidentally is also your happiest self).
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One of my favourite tracks is 'Bag Lady' by Erykah Badu, where she sings of a woman so loaded with bags, that she runs into a whole host of problems in her life.
Bag Lady is breaking her back carrying so much stuff around. It gets in her way to the point where she can't move at the speed she needs to, and when men see her approaching with all those bags - they run a mile.
And the man that doesn't initially run, soon gets completely overwhelmed and overcrowded by all the bags she carries with her. So he'll probably end up running too.
'Pack light'sings Erykah.
Pack light by letting go of your past relationship pain, fears and insecurities, even if you feel it's hard.
You may feel that someone has hurt you so badly in the past that you can't possibly let it go.
But just like Bag Lady, you jeopardise ruining future relationships by overcrowding your mind and your relationship, with so much emotional baggage.
The truth is, it's actually really simple to let go of your past - as simple as letting bags just drop to the floor.
It doesn't involve special mind tricks, or having to 'deal with' your past. It's just a simple, but transformational way of understanding how your mind really works.
And when you get this understanding, you're able to quickly bounce back from break-ups and heartbreak, so that you don't carry any needy energy, drama or emotional baggage around with you in your current relationship - or when you meet new people.
Don't break your back, or your relationship.
Let go of your emotional baggage for good and move forward towards a happier, easier and most definitely lighter marriage.
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