My ex-neighbour from hell recently appeared on the Jeremy Kyle chat show.
It was a stark reminder of how for 18 months, her and her gang of drug-taking, fist-fighting and house-robbing friends, made my life hell.
I’d already fled my marital home due to domestic violence, I’d had to spend 5 months in a women’s refuge - pregnant and with my then 3 year old; before I was able to make this new start, in this new house, and finally start moving forward in life.
It was all supposed to be positive from here on in. The struggle was over now, surely?
Except it wasn’t.
I ended up with a newborn who decided that sleeping at night was completely overrated, and so I suffered from sleep deprivation for the best part of a year.
As a single mum, I suddenly had to do everything for both children and had zero time left for me. Finding time to shower became a luxury.
So when I was suddenly landed with the neighbours from hell, I couldn’t believe my luck (or lack of).
Not only did they regularly jolt me out of bed in the middle of the night with their domestics and street fighting, but they also took it upon themselves to leave their human faeces on more than one occasion, in my own back garden.
Life couldn’t have got more sh*t. Pun intended.
What had happened to my fresh start? Weren’t things supposed to be better from now on? Now that I’d actually made the decision to go it alone and sorted out all the logistics of making that happen.
Why were things still not falling into place?
What I came to realise through this experience, is that life doesn’t go according to some programme we have in our minds. That once we’re done with the difficult parts, life automatically gets easier.
In life, we never know what is going to be thrown at us. Be that ‘good’, or ‘bad’.
What we can do however, is be ready.
Ready to handle anything that comes our way, and (effortlessly) fight it head on with nothing more than the tools that we’ve already been blessed with.
We just need a little bit of training, to get really good at understanding the special tool we already have in our psychological toolbox - and seeing exactly how it works in our own lives.
This psychological tool equips us with everything we need to deal with the day to day struggles in life, and come out the other side as (very happy and very contented) survivors.
If you’re struggling right now and can’t see how things can get better for you, then join me and Kathryn Jones on the 23rd February at the ME First Revolution, where I’ll be speaking about how you can move away from a place of suffering, to a place of peace and contentment with life.
Because I promise you, life doesn’t have to be a struggle. There is a better and easier way.
P.S. And for the record, I don’t watch Jeremy Kyle ;-)
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