One of my all time favourite childhood movies is the Karate Kid (the 80s version - obviously).
If you haven’t seen this movie a million times, practiced the finale ‘crane kick’ on your siblings, and memorised most of Mr Miyagi’s wise old sayings - then know that me and you will probably never be best friends...
Amongst these wise old sayings are of course, Mr Miyagi telling Daniel to ‘paint fence’, ‘sand floor’ and ‘wax on, wax off’.
So basically getting Daniel to do all of his household chores for him.
But as we all know, getting Daniel to do what looked like child labour, was Mr Miyagi’s way of ensuring Daniel not only had the patience to train in Karate; but also giving him valuable life lessons and the foundations that he would build upon, to become a Karate champion by the end of the movie.
In many ways, it’s a lot like relationship coaching.
Just like Daniel wanted Mr Miyagi to teach him Karate pretty much straightaway, and got frustrated and annoyed at having to paint the fence and wax his car instead; the same can happen with people who want instant answers and solutions to their marital problems.
My inbox and social media messengers can be full of women wanting to go from zero, to having the answers they seek, in a matter of a few short messages.
Just like Daniel, having to lay a stable foundation first, can seem boring and like too much effort. They want new relationship skills and ‘aha’ moments - and they want them now. So when I explain that certain steps need to be taken to deepen their understanding of things first, I’m met with the same kind of resistance that Daniel San had.
But as we all know, having Daniel lay the foundations first, is what led to that iconic scene which not only crowned him a Karate champion, but inspired children all over the world to also follow their dreams.
As Mr Miyagi said:
“First learn stand, then learn fly”
When it comes to the school of relationship coaching, there is one deep and spiritual understanding, that if you grasp, gives you the perfect foundation to see your marriage in a new light - and from this place of understanding, move forward with a new found sense of purpose, direction, love and wisdom.
It doesn’t happen overnight, but neither did Daniel San’s transformation into a Karate champion.
But one thing I know for sure, is that everyone absolutely loved watching him go on that journey that took him from being defenseless and unskilled, to delivering that final winning crane kick.
And I can pretty much guarantee that you’ll love your journey too.
The difference with me as your coach though, is that I’m not going to ask you to wax my car or paint my fence in order to get started on your own journey of self development.
All I’m going to do is tell you to register for a free 1-1 Relationship Breakthrough coaching session with me.
Because I’m nice like that.
Here’s where to go to get started:
P.S. If you find no availability left on my calendar, then that means these free slots have all been taken. So if there was ever an incentive to take action quickly in the future - this is one of them.