These are the words of my coaching client Laila*.
Laila contacted me after reading an article of mine in the Muslim Vibe and was interested in learning more about the Inside-Out Paradigm of Psychology. Like many of us, Laila was struggling to make things work in her marriage and hoped that this understanding could help her in some small way.
Laila ended up joining my group coaching programme and after only a few sessions alhamdulillah, sent me the following update on her marriage:
"I'm literally cringing at myself over how many times I've been patronising, condescending and defensive with my husband instead of trying to be patient and understanding.
I'm taking into account everything you have written and going to apply inshallah. You will be pleased to know things have gotten so much better Alhamdulillah thanks to you!!! You have made me see the error of my ways and I'm working on myself every day.
The reason why things had been at a standstill for so long was because I had never taken accountability for my actions and only expecting the change to come from my husband and not from within myself, it's still a work in progress but I no longer sweat the small stuff!!! Before I would of made it into a mountain!!!
Thank you so much, u will get so much ajar inshallah!! It's amazing how reading something can make you wake up and hear a few home truths!
Keep up the good work xx"
So, what happened in these first few sessions that created such a positive change in Laila's relationship with her husband? The same relationship that she had been struggling with for so many years?
In our first few coaching sessions together, Laila went through my video training programme - The Inside-Out Paradigm: A Beginner's Guide to Effortless Relationships. This 5-module training programme works by opening your eyes to what's really going on behind all of that thinking and feeling that can consume us on a daily basis. It helps us to make sense of our thinking and not let all of the big feelings we experience weigh so heavily on us.
And here's the really special part…
Laila sent me this feedback after having only gone through three of the five training modules. It had a positive effect on her that quickly. You know why? Because the Inside-Out Paradigm of Psychology is truth. And our souls always recognise truth. When we hear truth, it has a simple but transformational effect on our lives. It makes it so much harder to resort back to our negative thinking patterns and all of the emotional suffering that comes with that.
And I want as many people as possible to also experience this, insha'Allah.
It's why I've made the first module of my online training programme available here for free. This first module is only 18 minutes long but is a wonderful introduction to how we actually experience life and how we are innocently allowing ourselves to experience unnecessary emotional suffering - all because of a simple misunderstanding of how we really work.
If you watch the first module and your soul also recognises just an ounce of truth in anything I've shared and you want to learn more, then I've made the full programme available at a really special, low price.
Not only that, but I'm also bonusing in a 60-90 minute, 1-1 telephone coaching session with me, where we can delve deep into your own relationship and get some much-needed clarity on the issues and challenges that you're currently facing. It will also be the perfect opportunity to get further clarification on anything that was covered in the training programme or answer any questions you may have.
You can access the first module and find details for the full training programme by clicking here.
I pray that it benefits you as much as it benefited Laila, insha'Allah.
*Name changed to protect identity