A friend once asked me if I wasn't lonely by myself now that I was divorced.
Before I had a chance to reply my other friend chimed in and said "Oh don't worry about Ptissem, just give her a good book and she's happy". I didn't reply to her, because in my head I was thinking 'She doesn't know me like she used to because that's not what I do with my spare time anymore'. But then it hit me. It wasn't my friend who didn't know me anymore, it was me. She knew me before marriage and children and knew what I loved to do. It got me thinking about all the other little things I used to love doing, but I had somehow become completely detached from over the years, until I'd got the point where I was just a wife and mother. Now I don't say this negatively; it's an honour to be a mother and with the right person, being a wife is wonderful. But what about you aside from that? Is there even a you? For me the realisation was no, there was no sense of 'me' to be found anywhere anymore. And I realised I really missed that, I really missed me. How do I get her back? How do you get 'you' back? How can you make time for yourself when most days you're lucky if you even manage to shower? Family life is exhausting. It can seem impossible to find the time and will to see to yourself when you have so many other demands on you. There are many practical steps you can take to find yourself again. But there is one, very simple, but transformational spiritual step you can take, that will deeply impact how you see yourself forever and ensure that you never lose 'you' again. In fact, it will transform you into the best version of yourself. To find out more, join me and Kathryn Jones on the 23rd February at the ME First Revolution and get back in touch with your best self. Love, Ptissem Connect with me on Facebook: @Ptissemcoach
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