I recently came across this meme on Instagram which I instantly shared with one of my siblings, as it was funny and rang so true, as do so many memes these days.
Memes are funny and entertaining, but we like them so much because there is always truth in them, truth that we often don't reveal unless it’s in an entertaining format such as a meme.
The comments section for this meme was filled with people saying that they thought they were the only ones that did this - my sibling included - and then it reminded me of something I used to fall prey to so much, before coming across the Inside-Out Paradigm of Psychology.
We can sometimes without even realising, spend so much of our time and mental energy, preparing for situations in the future. The meme highlights this perfectly and as evidenced by the comments section, thousands of people every day spend time acting out situations in their minds as if they were real and preparing themselves for the various outcomes a situation could take.
Sounds like a wise move no? What's wrong with being prepared?
When we find ourselves doing this regularly in our relationships however, what we're missing is the following:
So there really is no need to stand in the shower or lie there in bed acting out or worrying about all of these future scenarios and trying our best to prepare ourselves for them. It's totally unnecessary, because Allah has already blessed us with insight that will help guide us through everything as and when it happens. IF something does take place in the future, you can deal with it there and then.
As for right now, empty your mind of these concerns and focus instead of what is actually happening, right now, in this present moment, because that's the only moment that actually exists.
If you'd like help with learning how to dismiss more of these unhelpful thoughts and ways of thinking, in order to have a clearer mind and not waste so much of your mental energy unnecessarily, then you’re going to love my Inside-Out Paradigm 5-module Beginner’s Guide - an online video training programme that you get completely free when you register for a 1-1 Relationship Breakthrough coaching session with me.
Click here to learn more and to use your time and energy for something that’s actually beneficial, insha'Allah :-)