Yes OK I watch Love Island..
Sometimes there’s nothing better than some good old reality trashy TV. And I know I’m not the only one who agrees...
But entertainment aside, there are also some wise old lessons we can take away from the cast of the show...
Especially when it comes to Amber.
When she first appeared on TV and started interacting with people, I thought what many others probably did - ‘what a bitch’.
And her rating herself a 10/10 didn’t do much to change that opinion...
She spoke so directly to men in a way that most Brits would shy away from or be embarrassed to imitate, and so naturally it came across as her being a bit bitchy.
But fast forward a couple more days, and it’s become clear to see that 21 year old Amber has the confidence that many women, even those twice her age, would love to have.
Amber knows her self worth, so because of this she doesn’t fall for any of the desperate and ungenuine male attention that comes her way.
Amber isn’t waiting for someone else to validate her, so she’ll wisely question the men’s motives when speaking to her, ask for more clarification on things that don’t make sense to her; and she basically makes it really hard for the standard chat up lines that most men use to have any effect whatsoever, unless there’s some depth behind it.
Most importantly though, is Amber’s ability to look out for herself first and foremost.
Whilst her personality at first came across as short and curt, she’s not actually a rude person. She’s just saying what most people think when faced with the same situations, but are too scared to voice their concerns.
Amber isn’t scared. She voices her concerns - and directly to the people in question.
She doesn’t sit there quietly and say nothing, but then discuss it later on with her friends and ask for advice on what to do. She openly deals with things there and then. So everybody knows what’s on her mind and exactly where they stand with her.
All without coming across as unfair, rude or unfriendly. In fact everyone seems to love her now.
Because they probably all wish they could be like her.
Amber may not be your cup of tea, but think about how much easier it would be to solve our own relationship problems if we just spoke about what was on our mind, directly to that person. Without being rude, or confrontational, but just direct and matter of fact and genuinely wanting to get to the bottom of things.
And without all the fear, anxiety and worry in our minds about how that conversation is going to go, making it even more nerve wracking and scary to carry out.
To have no fear.
To be honest with yourself and others.
Having the pure confidence and level headedness to speak about things and deal with situations, without making enemies or hurting people in the process.
I think it’s safe to say it would be pretty damn nice.
And the perfect place to start with dropping all of that fear, worry and even confrontational behaviour, and replacing it with more self-confidence, levelheadedness and honesty; is my Effortless Relationships online programme.
It’s a 5-module online programme that tackles all of the above, and because you’re reading this right now you can get the first module completely free, by going here:
P.S. Did Danny want to jump any higher in the kitchen last night?! #byeyewande